As I mentioned in the intro, Valentines Day can bring about different emotions for everyone. If you are happily married with the perfect partner in the perfect world, your Valentines Day is something to look forward to. But if your love-life not on the “Happily Ever After” chart…it can become a tough subject.
How to get through this?
Calculated self care will be an important ingredient. What I mean by that is to see how love shows up in your life in less conventional ways; being grateful for the love you do get, instead of getting frustrated with what you don’t have…or think you should have. This can be applied to other areas of life too. Easier said then done for sure, but you can learn to shift your focus and wouldn’t that make you feel so much better and lighter?
When you have lost (whether to another or through death) the love of your life, this is a very hard thing. It’s not that you should forget about him/her, it’s okay to think about them and to be sad, but there are ways to cope with your pain.
Here are some ideas that may work for you:
- Dine with friends.
- Do something loving for yourself.
- Spend time that day with your (grand-)children or young nieces/nephews.
- Do a good deed for someone else. It takes your mind off yourself and what you don’t have.
- Make a list of all the people and things (like your garden, your job or your dog) that you love in your life.
Remember love comes in many packages…
“Universal (selfless) love is the type of love which is not the sentimental outpouring that often passes as love in our society. It has nothing to do with the condition-based type of love that our sex-obsessed culture tries to pass as love.” ~ Aletheia Luna and Mateo Sol
You are always loved, it may just be there in a different package…